Tuesday, March 11, 2014

What Daughters Wish Their Daddies Knew

Mimi came to the rescue last week (yet again!!) with a thoughtful and touching article she heard about while listening to the radio in her car. As soon as she told me about it, I begged her to send me the link immediately so I could share with Jeff.
It's from The Bert Show and it speaks to things daughters want their daddies to know about life, love, and everything in between. Here are the 25 things they mentioned:
1. How you love me is how I will love myself.
2. Ask how I am feeling and listen to my answer, I need to know you value me before I can understand my true value.
3. I learn how I should be treated by how you treat my mom, whether you are married to her or not.
4. If you are angry with me, I feel it even if I don’t understand it, so talk to me.
5. Every time you show grace to me or someone else, I learn to trust God a little more.
6. I need to experience your nurturing physical strength, so I learn to trust the physicality of men.
7. Please don’t talk about sex like a teenage boy, or I think it’s something dirty.
8. When your tone is gentle, I understand what you are saying much better.
9. How you talk about female bodies when you’re “just joking” is what I believe about my own.
10. How you handle my heart, is how I will allow it to be handled by others.
11. If you encourage me to find what brings joy, I will always seek it.
12. If you teach me what safe feels like when I’m with you, I will know better how to guard myself from men who are not.
13. Teach me a love of art, science, and nature, and I will learn that intellect matters more than dress size.
14. Let me say exactly what I want even if it’s wrong or silly, because I need to know having a strong voice is acceptable to you.
15. When I get older, if you seem afraid of my changing body, I will believe something is wrong with it.
16. If you understand contentment for yourself, so will I.
17. When I ask you to let go, please remain available; I will always come back and need you if you do.
18. If you demonstrate tenderness, I learn to embrace my own vulnerability rather than fear it.
19. When you let me help fix the car and paint the house, I will believe I can do anything a boy can do.
20. When you protect my femininity, I learn everything about me is worthy of protecting.
21. How you treat our dog when you think I’m not watching tells me more about you than does just about anything else.
22. Don’t let money be everything, or I learn not to respect it or you.
23. Hug, hold, and kiss me in all the ways a daddy does that are right & good & pure. I need it so much to understand healthy touch.
24. Please don’t lie, because I believe what you say.
25. Don’t avoid hard conversations, because it makes me believe I’m not worth fighting for.
Aren't these so true?? I think each one of these statements rings true to so many situation in life and I hope this helps Jeff and I in the way we interact with both of our girls every day. Just a little reminder that everything we say and do influences the little ones and how they gather their perspective of the world and all things in it.

24 comments:

  1. This is fantastic, so very true!

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  2. This is so sweet - got chills reading some of them!!

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  3. these are so good!!! storing these away for a future date! PS - those pictures of jeff and the girls are so so sweet. not gonna lie - they make me a little teary-eyed thinking of my husband as a daddy one day!

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  4. I just send your post to my husband.. love this so much!

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  5. Such a sweet and so tru article! I need to remember this when/ if I have a girl, but also want to share it with my father.

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  6. love this!! We are about to have our first girl and while I'm so nervous, my husband is so excited (we have two boys currently) - I will have to share with him. Those pictures are precious too!

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  7. Love this so much. The relationship between a father and daughter is so special!
    ~Mary Keller
    www.southlandavenue.blogspot.com

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  8. Love! I'm sending it to my husband.

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  9. Love this. Dell Harper and Morgan have become so much closer with the arrival of Deeds. Saturdays they have been going out all morning and early afternoon so I can rest some with the baby. Dell Harper calls this "Daddy (ad) Ventures!" and just loves it. It warms my heart so much to see a dad with his daughter(s).

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  10. Awe I LOVE this and I am going to forward it onto my own husband! I especially love #22, but that's just because I know when I am not around my dog is more than well taken care of by my hubby!

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  11. These are so true! I love them:)

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  12. What a great list! I find them all very true

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  13. Sent this to my husband, thanks :)

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  14. I love this. My husband and I have not been blessed with any girls yet (just one little man!) but I can see some of these being for both boys and girls!:) Hopefully one day we will have a little princes, as my sweet hubby would be a great example for a girl, just like Jeff is for your adorable babies!:)

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  15. Thank you for this!! It is so great!!!

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  16. This post is wonderful and so important. I had my husband read this last night and he too thought it was good and important. We don't have children yet but are planning to in the very near future so there is no time like the present to start getting in the mindset to have little ones.

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  17. This is amazing. We are preparing to have our second child and our first is a daughter. What a wonderful message! BTW your daughters are adorable:)

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  18. These are so sweet and so true. Thanks for the warm, fuzzy feelings today! :)

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